Not to generalize, but in my opinion, for most men (and some women), sex is a goal, something they are after and pursue simply for the short physical pleasure. However, for me, sex is a special kind of love felt for a special person and shared between two people who have a connection beyond a physical attraction and sheer physical stimulation. If a man can stimulate my mind, intrigue me and take me to a much deeper place mentally, I can only wonder the things that will happen when we connect physically. Once the mental and emotional connection is made, the physical aspect is that much better, as our bodies unite to become one. Sex doesn’t always have to be lustful and dirty, but is a rather beautiful act that symbolizes the harmony of two people, two bodies, two souls.
Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy sex just as much as the next person, but I can’t engage in random or casual sex without feeling bad about myself afterwards, which is why I can go months, even years, without having sex. I'm proud to say that those I've engage in sex with have been those I've had strong feelings for.
Until the right man comes along who can capture my interest and stimulate my mind, body and soul and proclaim his love for me before God and our families, I’m just going to abstain.
